恭ㄍㄨㄥgōng敬ㄐㄧㄥˋjìng不ㄅㄨˋbù如ㄖㄨˊrú從ㄘㄨㄥˊcóng命ㄇㄧㄥˋmìng

  1. 恭敬謙遜不如聽從命令。《紅樓夢·第六二回》：「探春等笑道：『既這樣，恭敬不如從命。』」

英deference is no substitute for obedience (idiom)​, (said to accept sb's request, invitation etc)​